Loving God When Your Hands Are Full

Oh, I hear it all the time. The frustration. The worry. The fear.

How do I get anything done with kids? How do I find my new normal? How do I maintain a deep relationship with the Lord while raising children?


They’re good questions to ask because I think at one point, all of us mommas have asked ourselves this.

I’ve learned to shift my expectations. The picture of a woman sitting cozy in a comfy chair, snuggled in a warm blanket, sipping on her favorite hot tea, while reading her bible was no longer me. Those days had passed. But I’ve realized that my time with the Lord doesn’t have to look perfect to be beautiful.

“You have said, “Seek my face.” My heart says to you, “Your face, LORD, do I seek.” Psalm 27:8


I can seek Him when my hands are full. I can love Him well in the midst of messes and tantrums and life’s chaos. He’s after my heart. And that’s what I give Him as I read God’s word while I sit on the living room floor next to my 7 month old covered in spit up and wearing yesterday’s clothes. Jesus is with me as I seek Him from the bathroom floor while my toddlers are taking a bath. He meets me when I’m praying to Him while preparing a meal, or tidying our home. He’s beside me as I cry out to Him as my kids misbehave, and I’m struggling to have the patience and self-control that God calls me to. And somehow, though it’s not a picture perfect image, I’m content. I’m strengthened. I’m at peace.

So to the mom who is looking for her new normal, embrace God in the chaos. Don’t compromise when your hands are full. God will honor your dependence as you make your relationship with Him a non-negotiable in your life. He gave His very life for us. He’s worthy of our praise in every season, every triumph, and every battle. Love Him well in the mess. Love Him with all your heart.

“Those who know your name trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you.” Psalm 9:10


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Taylor Krabill is happily married to her high school sweetheart Tanner, and is living her dream as a stay at home momma to her three children: Haven, Kaid, and Luke. In her writings you will find her  heart for Jesus, her family, and her home sweet home.

Belonging

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Have you ever been rejected or felt like you don’t belong? This theme of belonging keeps popping up in things I read, listen to, and see. Every single person was created to be in community, wired to belong. That’s why people placed in solitary confinement literally go insane. I’ve watched people seek community in so many ways. People seek it within their church, their kids' sports affiliation, the running community, their neighborhood, work, long-standing friend groups— hoping to satisfy that God-given desire within us. I recently heard heaven being described as an “eternal belonging”. How beautiful and sweet that is that!

Galatians 3:28 says “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” We’ve all experienced the pain of rejection and the awkwardness of not fitting in, but in Christ we have an eternal BELONGING. Therefore, let us lace our relationships here on earth with deep humility and agape love as we prepare to enter into that eternal belonging one day.

What are some ways we can include others and welcome them into ‘Belonging’? First, we can bear one another’s burdens James 5:16 says “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.” A sweet aroma develops and deep bonds are forged in the vulnerability of sharing our weaknesses & shortcomings with one another with the goal of helping to gently restore one another.

Next, we can forgive one another. Ephesians 4:32 says “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” When I find this difficult and want to push someone away out of offense or hurt, I reflect on my own fallible human condition and how much forgiveness has been bestowed upon me. This greatly humbles me, fills me with compassion and helps me forgive others.

Also, attempt to step out of the shadows of your own discomfort, insecurity, and pain to invite others the way you want to be invited. Jesus said in Matthew 25:45 “Then he will answer them, saying, 'Truly, I say to you, as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.'” God’s word promises that you’ll find yourself refreshed by refreshing others. How refreshing is it to feel acknowledged, loved and invited?

Last, share the gospel with anyone and everyone to invite them to be apart of the ULTIMATE belonging. Mark 16:15 says, “‘Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature.'” Maybe you’re currently feeling rejected, alone, misunderstood, hurt—take comfort knowing the God of the universe came to earth as a man, experienced ALL of those feelings, was brutally murdered and rose again three days later all so you could have the opportunity to belong, my friends.

As much as I’ve heard this, I needed this reminder today. I am unconditionally loved, saved by His rich grace and I BELONG. If you’ve never heard that then here is your invite! Come as you are to the foot of the cross, today. Repent, put your faith in Christ and belong forevermore.


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Priscilla Millsap is a member of Lakeshore City Church. She is a wife to Josh and mother of four. Her passion is knowing Jesus more, raising her children to know Jesus and loving people like Jesus.

Longing for a Child to Hold

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To my sister with empty arms:

I’m writing this to you as a reminder that you are not in this alone. Sometimes, walking through trials can make you feel isolated because you don't feel like anyone can relate to what you're going through. I have walked in your shoes. I’ve felt the longing you have for a child to hold. The knots in your stomach when another friend tells you she’s pregnant, and you force back the tears while you smile and congratulate them. Our emotions can play some crazy games, but God is rich in mercy.

Infertility can bring out the worst in a person, and also in a marriage. At least it did for me.  For real, another pregnancy announcement?! They weren’t even trying! Gasp! They aren’t even married!? Surely, my husband and I are more capable of raising a child than they are. This endless cycle of comparison, envy, anger and sadness can go on and on, even when you have the knowledge of the gospel. 

Through our 8-year journey of childlessness, I became very bitter and numb. The first few years I was in denial, and then it turned to extreme sadness and envy. All I could do was be hopeful that one day, whether it would be through medical intervention, adoption, or a complete miracle, we would be parents. The Lord allowed me to experience grief, loss and humility, in ways I never would have imagined. Then, through His timing and providence, He truly showed me His grace and sovereignty in ways I never would have imagined.

Sister, the way you feel right now has merit. This feeling of despair, of jealousy, of anger…they aren’t for nothing. This is part of your story. Cry out to our God with those feelings. Pray with others and ask the Lord to give you the strength to wait on Him well with those feelings. Wait well. This is what I learned a few years in… I wasn’t waiting well. I needed to wait well. I needed to surrender these feelings to the Lord and ask how I could serve Him even with this deep longing.  "But how?"  Sister, He will show you.
 

“You will keep the mind that is dependent on you in perfect peace for it is trusting in you. Trust in the Lord forever, because in the Lord, the Lord himself is an everlasting rock."
Isaiah 26:3-4


Our God knows far more than our small minds can even grasp, even at this stage when there are so many unknowns about what the future will hold. But all this is just cause to trust Him even more.

How does your husband feel about this season of life? Are you sharing your heart with him? Does he understand how deeply it is affecting you?My prayer is that you two are united in this journey. You’re in this together. It may take time for him, because he’s not the one taking the pregnancy test only to see one-line, month after month, but in time he’ll understand the hurt.

Talk about a plan. Are you going to see a fertility specialist? How do you feel about adoption? Once you two are on the same page, it will make a world of difference. I pray that this unity will come soon for you.  

Cling to Christ. He is our only sure foundation. He hears our prayers and has promised to comfort us. (Matthew 5:4, 11:28)  I love you sister, and I am here for you, pleading that the Lord will answer your prayer for a child.

A Few Helpful Resources

Season of Waiting by Betsy Childs Howard

Walking through Infertility by Matthew Arbo

Don’t Waste your Infertility

Embryo Adoption


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Lindsay Corgan loves Christ and has a unmistakable way of loving well the people around her.  She and her husband, Scott, live in Shelbyville, KY with their beautiful daughter Molly Joy. 

Depression Part 3

As we actually become more like our Savior, we begin to see how our worth, purpose, and hope is intrinsically tied to him, not to our feelings or present circumstance. When we identify with Christ, we abide in him and become more like him. The result is that we see our worth without decay (like Christ!), our purpose without boundaries (like Christ!), and our hope without fear (like Christ!). This is the final post in a three-part series on depression. We looked at two passages of Scripture to help us build new habits of praying, thinking, and seeing. Now, we turn our attention to doing

Depression Part 2

Even the fight toward joy can be filled with despair when we look at our own deficiencies. In the last post about depression, we were challenged to replace anxiety with joy through anxiety-killing prayer and faith-filled thinking. As anyone who begins to implement these new habits quickly realizes, the struggle intensifies as we begin to fight. Our thinking is darker than we realized. Our heart is prone to wander further than we were aware. And our prayers are more distracted and irregular than we hoped. It is at this moment of realization that we must look not to our own weaknesses, but instead fix our eyes on the beautiful glories of Christ who loves us and died for us even while we were sinners (Rom 5:8).